Mom and Dad’s Role in the Recruiting Process!
The recruiting process can be overwhelming, scary, and tedious. It’s crucial that as parents, you understand your role. This is a life changing decision for a student athlete. Having your support means everything to your child whether they vocalize this to you or not. So let’s talk about some ways you can show your support:
1. Visit college campuses! I suggest visiting several college campuses throughout the year. They do not all need to be out of state, but you should pull into the school, get out of the car and start walking around. Encourage your son or daughter to talk to people about their experience at the school.
2. Support your son or daughter to take responsibility to find the perfect fit. Most teenagers need guidance, but guidance doesn’t mean doing everything for them. Remember they are soon going to be adults doing their own laundry and living on their own. Treat them like an adult. It’s important to be supportive not bossy.
3. Making phone calls is one of the most important factors in recruiting for your child. Avoid calling college coaches as their parents. The college coaches want to hear from your son or daughter. They could be potentially investing over $250,000 in your student athlete, and it is crucial that your son or daughter is building a relationship with the coach. I ask that parents wait to get involved with the coaches until they are planning to visit. When you are setting up visits and spending thousands, I suggest getting involved so that you book things according to the coaches suggestions.
4. No yelling! I visit clients in their homes and in my offices. The first issue I am alarmed by is yelling. I have witnessed some pretty intense arguing where I have to step in and mediate. Once you start arguing about recruiting you lose your son or daughters attention. They really need to feel your support while going through this process. They will not admit this to you, but they are pretty scared about leaving home.
5. Be sure to have a serious discussion about attitude and remaining humble. Having a bad attitude can cost your son or daughter scholarship offers.
6. Playing time is touchy subject for many. It’s hard when you have a student athlete who is working really hard to earn playing time and doesn’t get an opportunity to play. As a parent, the more you can focus on having a positive attitude and encouraging your son or daughter the better. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the frustration. Try to avoid talking negatively about the coach or the program.
Make the recruiting process fun and memorable. Your child only has ONE chance to get recruited. This is a serious commitment and showing your support is the best way to guide your son or daughter through the process. They will forever be in your debt. For a strategic plan, and guidance through the recruiting process, email Kara@myrecruitingsolutions.com to set up your free consultation. I work with families throughout the United States and Canada.